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I am Sandra, International multi award winning entrepreneur, International speaker, NLP Master Practitioner, #1 Worldwide bestselling co-author, comedian and the happiness accelerator.
Growing up going through adversity such as bullying, humiliation, various heartache, living with a narcissist, severe depression, being suicidal, mental abuse, miscarriage, assault, medication addiction, gaslighting, I realized my life was about living on expectations where none of my desires were met, as if I wasn’t even part of my own life, I wasn’t living, I was only existing.
I never thought I would end up in a relationship with a narcissist and suffer mental abuse for over 10 years. It starts so small that you don’t realize that you grow into a situation no one ever wants to be in. Being belittled, humiliated, scolded, threatened even in front of other people daily became the normal, Walking on eggshells, accepting that this was my life.
The loss of my whole social network, losing my self-worth, a lot of money, but most important….. My Identiy.
Hiding this from everyone, I couldn’t even tell my family. The shame and guilt was so enormous, it was made clear it was all on me, I didn’t deserve better I was not good enough or worth more than that.
“Life always waits for some crisis to occur, to reveal itself at its most brilliant”.
I was saved by a miracle in wrapped in a painful disguise. I got pregnant and soon had a miscarriage. It was even made clear to me that I might have killed my own baby which I believed for years. I needed that to happen to open my eyes.
ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!
It took another 6 months before it ended. After 10,5 years it was finally silent.
I recovered, and got back on my feet. I could do anything I want! Yeah, this is great!
I had 2 jobs and a jewelry studio on the side, I loved everything I did, I got to travel, I was even selected to teach a class on the biggest consumer beading show in Milwaukee (USA), how awesome is this! I served different committees, volunteered, and gained a huge social network as I love connecting with people.
Little did I know I got back in a treadmill of expectations not only from other people but maybe subconsciously from myself. I put myself such high standards always expecting the most of me I could never reach them. Trying to be perfect, being perfect sucks!
Being under so much pressure and stress I got a lot of physical complaints. The GP kept sending me home even when I had some kind of minor heart-attack.
Until the diagnosis was set….. A severe depression.
For months I was suicidal, praying for my life to end. Living another day was the biggest challenge, day after day. I did not have the balls to take my own life, but I went through every option possible. I had already written a farewell letter.
Until I realized, I am here anyway, so what can I do myself, to be in charge of my life?
“When you think you are being buried, you are being planted”
What does happiness mean for me? And how do I get there?
When you don’t know darkness, how can you even know what light is?
When you can’t change a situation, you can change the way you look at it. In every situation are always 3 things: Something to be grateful for, something to learn and grow, something to laugh about.
I took a journey of transformation and self-development. A lot of education to discover how I can live a fulfilling life, learned coaching skills, that initially were meant for myself to become better but this also brought me straight to my purpose in life.
I want to be the person I needed a few years earlier but could not find.
“Make the shit from your past the fertilizer of your future”.
Some of life’s greatest gifts are wrapped in sandpaper. Today I can honestly say I am so grateful for everything that happened, as without that I would not be who I am today.
I have tried so hard to be invisible my whole life, now it’s time for me to stand up. I want to inspire people, if I am courageous, I hope you will be encouraged to reignite that fire in your soul, become the best version of you, to live the life you truly want.
“It’s not about the cards we get, but how we play the game.”
I inspire, guide and mentor women how to grab their “Sh*t”, and turn it around, so they can accept it, laugh at it and let go of the control it had over them. So they can become who they really want to be.
With all the skills I learned I have a toolbox full of techniques and methods to overcome limited beliefs, restrictive methods and fears that hold us back to live a fulfilling life. We never loose by loving, growing and showing our true selves, we always loose by holding back.
“Life is about kicking ass, not kissing it”.
I launched my concept “Laugh at shit” June 2021.
I wrote a chapter in the Worldwide Amazon No 1 bestselling book “Time to Reign”, got nominated for 5 International Awards, was shortlisted for two and brought home “Best Supporter of the year award”.
2022 was a very challenging year with a lot of adversity, despite I managed to play my own cabaret show, got nominated for 6 International awards, shortlisted for 2 and received “Speaker of the year award”.
2023 has just begun, even though I have some big challenges going, I will not let it stand in my way, it’s only there to show me something, to learn and grow.
I have picked up more momentum, I was just featured in Exposure Magazine and on Exposure Plus TV, which I’ve been told reached 440 million households!
I also picked up stand-up comedy again. if I can do so much in a few years, can you imagine where this year is going?! I am excited to see what’s next!
I am not special, but there is something special about the way I did it. If I can get this far you definitely can do whatever it is you want to do too. If you don’t believe it yourself yet, then borrow my belief in you until you see it yourself.
Did you just hit rock bottom?
First we are going to have a pity-party, Let’s get out the tissues, make sure you have enough chocolate and whatever you need when you are sad….
Now…. Let’s cry it out…. Tears are the washing machine of the soul. Take as long as you need….. Need another tissue? Here let me hand you one. You are doing awesome! Just breath…. You are getting there……
It’s all okay to feel what you feel right now, give everything the space it needs, it’s there for a reason even though you might not see it yet, soon you will be able to connect the dots.
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